My boyfriend and I have been having a lot of petty fights since I had to leave to come back to Canada three weeks ago. (I'm sure a few of you read that apology letter I wrote to him not too long ago... That was one of those petty fights, although it turned into rage hugeness... Yeah, not so great.)
These fights have been extremely irritating, obviously. And each time we fight, we both feel like we really want nothing to do with each other, even though deep down, we know we'd be extremely upset if we split up. We decided we had to do something about these fights.
So we came up with a written "Agreement."
It's an agreement on how to act in our relationship, basically—at least in regards to communication and listening and fighting and so on. I'm sure that sounds sort of dorky, but we both think it's a really good idea, especially because of the first thing we agreed to do:
Every time we fight one another, whoever started the fight puts a dollar in a special place and leaves it there until the end of the year. Then at the end of the year, with the money we’ve each accumulated, we buy a gift or something for the other person. 
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Smart idea, eh? It's only been a day, so obviously we haven't had any fights. I'll let you guys know how it's going in about a month-ish, lol... But I have a feeling it should go well.
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Comments (13)
You are just getting featuring left and right! But anyways, I never really have any fights in my relationship, so it doesn't do any good for me. Besides, I buy her gifts at any time anyways. Try to at least when I have money.
That would be cool idea. As long as you really work things out in the end.
That sounds like an interesting idea, although I can see people being tempted at the end of the year to say "wow, your gift cost a lot more than mine... you started waaay more fights than I did." But it does sound promising, if both parties are mature about it.
We do this...only we do it with sex. Okay...sounds weird but, every time we have sex we put a dollar in a jar we have.....we're saving for our honeymoon that we didn't get to have because he was being deployed. Hehe...it's FUN! :D And um...money accumulates.....quickly.
And argument jar sounds good too!
Also, some couples who fight way too much might not see the occasional dollar as a deterrant for their hostility after a while. Those couples would probably want to raise the amount to $10 or $20, lol.
But $1 is probably just right for more reasonable couples. I could imagine a fight starting, and when the person goes and reaches for their dollar, they'll realize how silly it all is and just start laughing at themselves for acting that way.
I like it. It's kinda like the swearing jar, but actually worth the effort.
I'd buy beer, cause I never lose a fight.
That's an interesting idea!
Def. an interesting idea.
That's a good idea.
Huh, definitely a good idea. SO and I don't fight so we won't get to buy each other an extra gift at the end of the year for each other. >_>
What if you argue over who started the fight and has to put money in the jar?
HAHA... the sex idea sounds fun. Maybe I should do that everytime I even talk to my exs because that's proabbly a bad idea no matter what it is about. Probably write out a cents and dollar amount for each action. The last time I used one of those Coin Star machines I only had $8 but my ex (>.>) put in an extra $10 worth of quarters.lol. I'll figure out something... Im a money saving nerd.lol.