A lot of you might've read my
entry about me getting a job a few weeks ago, as it was posted on Dollarish. So, the first couple of weeks were really good. I especially was relieved on the first day, when I met the people I was working with, and they turned out to be really nice and helpful. I even (naively, now I see) went as far as to tell my boss that she was really nice. And, so far she was mostly because we've had minimal interaction (she doesn't come in until the very end of the day).
This week however, she's been a complete and horrible bitch. She's been yelling at me and picking on me for three days straight, and it scares me. Especially, the yelling part because sometimes I'm afraid she's going to hit me - I'm not even joking. I had to literally remind myself that hitting me was illegal, and therefore she couldn't do it. I know it may sound to some of you like I'm exaggerating, but I'm not. I have never met anyone so rude, disrespectful, self-absorbed, and self-important as she is. Here's a list of things she does that makes me want to smash something heavy on her head and slap a few times so she'll stop being such an effing bitch:
- She constantly reminds me/tells me that she's so great at doing her job, and the rest of us are just vermin compared to her - because SHE has been in this industry for so long, and therefore, she can do everything better than the rest of us, and we're just a bunch of lazy asses who do nothing, no sir, not compared to her.
--> PS: She's so great, she's in her late 40s and living with her parents, unmarried, and very fat.
- She takes out her anger on me. No matter what she's angry at, if I talk to her, or even if I'm walking by she'll yell at me or say something really mean or rude to me to make me feel like I'm below her.
- She expects me to do everyone's jobs right, and she'll yell at me or hit things around if someone else - who's been working there for far too long than I have - does something wrong.
- For example, a couple of days ago, I was getting someone to pay for a drink and I typed it in the machine and went to collect the money. However, one of my co-workers interjected, and told me that the price was wrong (apparently there is no tax below $4 (which I didn't know, but since I just started working there, and since he's been working there for five years now, I decided to listen to him). So, basically, I was told to accept 13 cents less for the drinks than the machine said to. When I told my boss later that evening what had happened, she flipped out! She went on a tirade about where she was going to give the 13 cents from, and then proceeded to threaten me to not pay for the next half an hour I was working because "I'd screwed up so much today". Right. All this, afte I calmly, and very politely explained to her exactly what had happened and how I didn't want to override my superior at the job and upset the customer by making them pay more, when my co-worker was clearly telling me to ask them for less. Anyways, the scariest part of this interaction was that when I told her, she yelled at me really loudly, swore at me, and proceeded to punch the counter in front of her several times. This was one of the times I was afraid she would hit me.
- Another example of her obnoxious behavior came today, when as a favor to her I worked on Canada day, a federal statutory holiday here in Canada, and the entire day she either treated me with contempt, or ignored me (these were times when she just couldn't find anything to be mad about), or she basically yelled about other people not doing work. We have this box to store beer empty beer bottles in our restaurant, so she can return it to the beer store and get refund on the bottles. Anyways, so for the last couple of days that box has been overflowing with bottles. Today, I put in exactly 2 bottles in the box that was already a mess. I should mention that I started working in the evening, and another waitress - who's been working there for about four years - was working the entire morning and afternoon. So, basically, my boss walked by the box for the entire day - no doubt noting that it was already over-flowing - but she didn't point it out and make a big deal of it until I was starting clean up. She yelled at me and basically called me stupid for keeping the box that way even though NOBODY had informed me when or where the box is supposed to be put away. She proceeded to yell at me and then went on a tirade, muttering about how the other waitress could work with it all day.
Here's where I think: what the fuck is wrong with you, bitch? She has been singling me out and picking on me and using me as her personal punching bag for the last three days, and honestly, sometimes it just makes me feel like crying because I can't yell back at her or swear at her (what kind of a professional swears at work in a customer service industry anyways? Especially in front of his/her employees?).
Anyways, now that my rant is over, my question to you is: what would you do if you were in my situation (a student trying to make some extra cash for summer, with little job experience)? And, if you have dealt with stuff like this in the past, what did you do?
Comments (9)
Depending on if you work at a chain store or not, you can file a complaint. That sort of behavior is NOT acceptable and I'm sure either the owner and/or headquarters of the company would love to hear about this. She just seems like a bitch who isn't happy with her life and thinks she can take it out on her "inferiors".
I would find another job. Really. The restaurant business can be quite brutal, but not as bad as you described. She's verbally abusing you. I would also not put this job on my resume because this woman is certainly not going to give you a good reference.
I have low tolerance for that kind of treatment, and if someone slammed her fist on the counter or smashed things to show her overblown anger and yelled at me the way your boss yells at you, I would go straight to Human Resources (if this is a chain restaurant, it should have an HR dept) and file a harassment complaint against her.
I also would firmly tell her that I won't tolerate being spoken to like that. Assume that once you do speak up, she will fire you because bullies don't like it when their victims get brave, so they'll do what they can to get rid of you. Report her first so that her bosses know that they hired a bully, and leave for your new job.
Yeah, if you CAN find another job, go for it. Otherwise, find HER boss and complain.
It would suck to work like that. The last few days I've thrown cleanser at and flicked off my boss, and all he does is roar with laughter.
@planetedie@xanga - You can not put a job on your resume? For reals?
Report her. She has to have a superior somewhere.
And if anything. If she docks your pay. That's illegal. Take it up with the police. Also if she threatens you. That would be a complaint you can file to the police too.
And lastly, don't bother writing any of this on a resume. Because from what it sounds like, she will never give you a good reference anyways.
@AshesZ94@xanga - Yes, for real. Your resume is not a legal document and there's nothing keeping you from omitting a job as long as you can explain the gap in your work history and have a plausible explanation. However, the info on your resume also has to match the job application. Unlike a resume, an application IS a legal document. I wouldn't lie or omit details lightly.
My resume would be pages long if I had to list every employer I've ever had over the last 21 years of my life. Your resume only needs to show the last few jobs you've had, say, over the last 10 years, to show your experience and growth. Luckily, the writer is kind of young and still in college, which means her work history is probably very short and inconsistent, so future employers probably won't think anything of this job gap. The trade-off to her omitting this employer from her resume or a job application is that she can't claim to have any experience that might be relevant to a future job, which could affect her pay rate.
I don't think it's worth it for her to put this employer down when her boss sounds like a vindictive bitch who will give a bad recommendation.
If its been three days, she's just bleeding out her vag. Give her a few.
Sounds like someone I know...in the end it's so hard because there's not much you can do but quit. Or move up and become her equal or superior..hehe.
She constantly reminds me/tells me that she's so great at doing her
job, and the rest of us are just vermin compared to her - because SHE
has been in this industry for so long, and therefore, she can do
everything better than the rest of us, and we're just a bunch of lazy
asses who do nothing, no sir, not compared to her.
--> PS: She's so great, she's in her late 40s and living with her parents, unmarried, and very fat. ahahahha
maybe you could confront her about the yelling or leave an anonymous note. does she only treat you this poorly?
if it is this bad, she needs to be reported. this is not how a boss should act. this is not how a human should act to another human, unless of course you attempted murder.
She is just being horrible!!!
That's not acceptable at all. I agree with waking_up_older and Winter_Raven--you should see if you can report her.
If I were you, I'd quit and/or report her.
Also, you said you're worried she might hit you--even though she shouldn't, she still could. She might snap and strike you anyway.
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